Have you ever caught your reflection and looked away too quickly?
Not because you didn’t care—but because the voice in your head had already whispered something sharp and silent: “too much,” “not enough,” “never going to be different.”
I used to avoid mirrors. Or worse—I’d catch a glimpse just long enough to judge, never long enough to connect. And meanwhile, my husband would say I was beautiful. That I was enough. That he loved me.
And all I could think was, “How could he love this?”
But friend, that wasn’t about my body. That was about my beliefs.
The Silent Contracts We Make with Shame
I wasn’t just criticizing my reflection—I was bankrupting my worth.
Every word I whispered about myself created a silent contract with lack:
- “I’m too much.”
- “I’m not enough.”
- “I don’t deserve better.”
These phrases weren’t facts—they were agreements. And the problem is, when you’re constantly speaking in alignment with shame, you cannot receive love. You cannot receive wealth. You cannot even receive a compliment without deflecting.
Words are currency. And I was spending mine on self-doubt.
Why This Matters for Your Money
I know—it sounds like a self-love pep talk. But this is about receiving. Because the same mouth that curses the body will curse the bank account.
If you can’t hold your own gaze in grace, how will you hold space for overflow?
This is why I help women shift not just their finances—but their language. Because no budget, no business plan, and no strategy will work if you’re still speaking lack over yourself every morning.
What You Speak, You Invite
You are not powerless. But you might be in agreement with powerlessness.
Start here:
- Stand in front of a mirror today. Look her in the eyes.
- Say one thing with kindness. Doesn’t need to be poetic. Just truthful.
- Then ask yourself: what would change if I believed that?
The way you speak to you is the foundation of everything you’re trying to build.
Have you taken the Money Frequency Quiz yet? Or tuned into the Unapologetic Wealth podcast? Both are ready to shift the story.