005 – Stand by your convictions

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Hi Guys. Cindy, Spiritual Medium, and I wanted to talk to you today a little bit about your convictions, your beliefs, your word, and that sounds a whole lot in a mouthful.

But what it is, is, do you speak your truth? Do you honest. Can you word be trusted and can it be respected? What do you actually stand, what do you actually believe in? This comes from putting yourself first and then you know, it sounds a little bit crazy, like what do you mean by putting yourself first? What I mean is do not over commit yourself. If you can’t do something, then don’t do it, because your convictions and what you believe in stands for so much. And if people cannot believe in you, then your word is nothing, means nothing to them. And the way I like to phrase it when I’m coaching clients and doing workshops is let your ‘yes’ be yes and your ‘no’ be no.

Because when you stand by your convictions and your beliefs, your word means so much. In order to do that, your ‘yeses’ have to be yes, and your ‘nos’ have to be no. And what I mean, let me give you an example, do not offer to meet somebody for coffee or to do something for them when you know your schedule is so busy that you, that like you can’t be there or, one you either you cancel or two you are there but you’re not actually there because your brain is going, “okay, I’m having this coffee but I’ve got to do 10 other things on my list”. So it’s a rushed event and you’re not giving that person your true self? Because you shouldn’t have said yes in the first place. And I know it may sound like I’m going, “but I have to say yes if I’m, but I don’t say yes, they’re going to think I’m a really bad person and I need to be everything, everything to everyone” and NO YOU DON’T.

You don’t. You need to be everything for yourself. When you can say yes to yourself first, everything else just falls into place because you do not need to be there for everybody. You need to just be there for yourself. Okay? And the reason I say that is because I see so many, so many people out there. This is where they start getting stuck because you’re so caught up in everything around you and nobody believes in your belief or your convictions or your word because it’s been broken so many times. And that is why it’s become like, oh yeah, whatever. She’s always going to be, she’s always late. Because guess what your word doesn’t mean anything. If you say you’re going to be somewhere at 10 o’clock, you always there at quarter past 10 kind of a thing and that’s because you’ve stopped putting yourself first and you have overextended and tried to be the for everybody, which means you’re not there for yourself.

You haven’t taken time to go, hey, what do I need right now? Do I actually need to go have coffee? Do I actually want to bake that cake for, for somebody? And it may be a no and it’s okay to say no. The only person you don’t say no to is yourself. And I, you know, with the, we, we preach about taking self-care, self-love, relaxing, but how many of us actually do it? Take the time to just be there, for yourself, switch off to everybody else and be present and say, you know what, “Today I’m going to do nothing. I’m just going to veg on the couch”. And the kids, the dogs, the animals are fed. Now I’m going to take like two hours and just veg and play a game or something. And that is where you start putting yourself first. You start realizing how you, how much you extending yourself and you start learning that you can’t keep doing that.

And that’s when your ‘yeses’ become your yeses and you ‘no’ becomes, your ‘no’, because when you say no, you know, that is not coming from a place of nastiness. It’s coming from a place of: ‘I can’t be the for you I can’t, show up 100% for you. If I say yes to that event or whatever it is, I’m not going to be able to give you my all. And my word is my bond. And I want to give you my all. So therefore I have to say no’. And the same thing, if you say yes when you say yes, you show up in your all, you show up when you’re supposed to, do what you said you were going to do because now you have the time to it. It’s all about also figuring out your schedule, figuring out what you can actually do, and not as a can actually do, what do you actually want to do? Does it go against your beliefs or does it, or is a part of your belief system? For example, don’t do something you don’t like doing just because the other person asked you. I mean that’s just silly. Now that’s not standing by your beliefs because you don’t like doing it. So why do it.

So I’m going to leave you with that. With let your ‘yes’ be yes and stand by your convictions.

Okay, bye.

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